A Dead Battery Can’t Jump a Dead Battery

I would like to welcome you to this episode of My Promising Life. A show dedicated to helping you grow better, one day at a time.

My name is Richard and I will be your host as we take our everyday fears, anxieties, and problems and learn how to get rid of them.

In today’s show we will talk about how a dead battery cannot jump a dead battery. Any links to any products will be put in the show notes, which you can find at mypromisinglife.com these links that I provide, may earn me a small referral fee.

Did you know:

laughing lowers levels of stress and strengthens your immune system

I don’t know about you, I would rather laugh and smile, than frown and be down all day. So why do we let the little stuff (and it’s all small stuff) get us down.

When we are feeling bad, i.e. upset, angry, frustrated, flustered…you get the picture. Our (at least mine) blood pressure goes up and we start to feel bad. We have no energy, we stop caring about what is going on because we are only worried about what is happening in our life.

If you listed to my first episode, where I talked about living instead of worrying. I said basically, worrying get’s you no where. The only thing you get from worrying is a headache, heartache, and rundown. So a simpler way of putting it is we are like a dead battery. Now if we are being a dead battery but yet we are trying to help other people that are essentially dead batteries, how is that going to work out?

We can’t be so run down with our problems, because we can’t help other people with their problems. I’m not saying that we need to be happy all of the time because, as we all know that is almost impossible. But, worrying over something that has already happened is useless.

It is useless for the fact that what is done is done. We need to move on from that and work to find a solution.

Now, I’m not saying that it’s going to happen overnight. Not by any stretch of the imagination.

The reason I say this, is that it took me 3 years to get over my second wife. When I was married I was so in love with this girl and I thought I had life by the tail. I was driving truck and gone a month at a time.

I would sometimes get home during the month for a night here and there. But I always took 4 days off in a row, every month. We had been together for about 4 years and I came home and was enjoying it, but about the second night, my wife didn’t quite seem herself. I asked her what was wrong and all she said to me was that she thought we should spend some more time apart. WHAT?!!!!

I was flabbergasted, I asked her “why” and she never really answered me. So, instead of fighting with her, I said ok, if that is what you want. I got up the next day, packed my truck and went back to work. I didn’t go home anymore, I just drove.

Well, we finally got divorced (there was no fight about it) so in January of 2008, I found myself single again. Wow, what a blow to my ego, I cried, was upset, angry, and a host of other emotions. I tried to analyze every thing I could think of to figure this out. Well during that time, I started to look 20 years older, didn’t feel like doing anything (except working), and basically I was just existing.

So after all that time I had to get out of “my funk” so to speak and start to find me again. I used to be fun, laugh, and just enjoy life. I forced myself to start reading my bible, praying, and finding other’s like me. So, I found Zig Ziglar (a famous motivational speaker), Tony Robbins, Jim Rohn, John C Maxwell…and other’s.

Eventually over time, I began to realize that there was nothing I could do except to move on and make me happy. I also realized that I had relied on someone else to make me happy. If I was to be happy, I needed to step up and do that. At the time I didn’t know how. With listening to these speaker’s and reading books I started to learn how to be happy with myself and to start loving myself.

Too many times we let other people determine our happiness. That is only a short term (very short) gain. If we truly want to be happy, we need to make that happen. I read a great book, How to stop worrying and start living by Dale Carnegie https://amzn.to/363pUZG that book taught me a lot and before I realized it, I was becoming a lot happier person.

Now I’m not saying that everyone will experience this, I hope that you do. But I ask that you at the very least, give it a chance. It could change your whole outlook. When we are having a bad day, year, or whatever, after a while if we are not careful we actually start to enjoy it. It becomes routine. As soon as you realize it, you need to force yourself to look at things differently. Everyone is beautiful in there own way. Don’t let anyone tell you any different.

I get very upset when people shame other people for whatever. I try to lift everyone up the best that I can. People will do and be the way they want, that is not for me to judge. I just try to give everyone the same tools and wisdom that has been shown to me. What you do with this information is your responsibility.

If you found this podcast helpful in anyway, please feel free to share this and if you would please go to iTunes and leave a review. It would help me to get this out to many more of you. If you have any questions or feedback, please leave a comment or email me at Richard@mypromisinglife.com

Zig Ziglar once said, “Your input determines your outlook. Your outlook determines your output, and your output determines your future.” If you stop to think about this statement, it will amaze you how a very simple man, figured out, just how to be happy.

Thank you for listening and I pray you find happiness in whatever it is you are looking for. You will want to tune in for next weeks episode, Set a goal and get out of your comfort zone. Where we talk about achieving what you set your mind too.

Until then, smile because you are beautiful, and there is only one of you. Have a great week.

Living instead of Worrying

Worrying is like paying a debt you don’t owe” – Mark Twain

Hello, my name is Rich and I want to introduce a new show called My Promising Life. I don’t have all of the answers. I am still searching just like you are. I have found a lot of help from many different places and I will bring them to you, so that if you don’t have the life that you want right now, hopefully I can help you achieve the life that you desire.

I have tried to take over and do things my way in life, and I have found out over and over that I fail just about every time. Just to give you an example I have a left a couple of different jobs with a grand idea that life was better somewhere else. What happened? I was struggling at first, then I found my feet and took off. Things would be going good then life crept back in and guess what…I did it again.

I don’t recommend this lifestyle as it is hard, very hard. One day, everything will find you and you will have to ask yourself am I going to Forget Everything And Run, or am I going to Face Everything And Rise!

One thing that I used to deal with that really caused me a lot of grief, was worry. I used to worry about everything happening in my life, other peoples lives, the state of the country, and just worry all together about anything I could.

It finally took me, stopping and looking back at my life and what I had gone through, dealt with, and was dealing with at the time. I also looked in the mirror and realized I was looking older than I should. I felt bad, had no energy, basically scared of my own shadow.

I remember when I was driving truck and I really didn’t have anyone to talk to. So, I turned to talk radio and found some solace (so I thought). I started listening to Howard Stern, Rush Limbaugh, Alex Jones…etc. Over time I became paranoid of what everyone was doing, the way everyone was acting, and treating other people.

It was so bad that I had myself convinced that we needed to be prepared (which actually we do need to be prepared for anything). But, I basically was looking around every corner just waiting for something to happen.

Well, finally after I realized where I was going, my thoughts, and just what it was doing to me overall. I stopped listening (which was really hard and took a little bit of time). After about a couple of years, I realized that it didn’t matter what was happening around me. This stuff goes on day to day with or without us participating.

So after I woke up and realized that I was the only one basically killing myself over worry and doubt. None of my friends and family worried about it and I had to force myself to stop. I decided to change the channel so to speak and put different idea’s in my mind.

I turned to listening to Zig Ziglar, Jim Rohn, started reading books by Dale Carnegie. I’ve listened to Tony Robbins, Charles Stanley and many more others.

Zig Ziglar said “Your input determines your output. Your output determines your outlook, and your outlook determines your future.

When I read that and pondered on it, I realized, that if I wanted inner peace and to start being happier with myself then worry and self doubt had to go away.

So, that is what I have been doing for about the last 15 years or so and I can tell you from experience that my life is a whole lot better than what it was. I am happier, healthier, and grateful to be alive. No longer do I wonder how I am going to deal with this person, or that situation or anything like that.

I have started realigning my thoughts to coordinate with the good that I want to see in my life. That is what I want to achieve with this podcast. I want to help you become the best version of yourself.

I am someone who has a microphone, a full time job, and wants to start a conversation with you, to become better today than you were yesterday.

If you have any questions, comments, or ideas you would like to share. Please send an email to Richard@mypromisinglife.com I will respond as quickly as possible.

Thank you for reading and have a blessed day.

Until then, take care and know that “you can have everything in life that you want, if you will just help enough other people get what they want” – Zig Ziglar