“If you don’t like the road you’re walking, start paving another one” – Dolly Parton.
Welcome back to today’s show, my name is Richard and I am overjoyed you are here. This show is still very young and growing. As you will learn as you go on this journey with me, I march to the beat of my own drum.
Many podcaster’s take their first episode and explain who “they” are; Where they came from and how they got to this point and why they are starting this show. Myself, I have given a little bit of why I have started podcasting, but no one really knows anything about “me”.
I was born in Kansas City, Mo. We moved around most of my life. My father was in the Navy so we never stayed anywhere too long. We had a good life so to speak, we always had food on the table and a roof over our heads.
Now growing up we were not the popular ones and we did have friends but nothing steady. I went into the military right out of high school. After the Army, I got into truck driving and just loved it. I had the freedom to basically do anything I wanted.
This is where I started to run into problems in my life. I changed jobs a lot, I would fight at the drop of a hat, and I would degrade people that didn’t see things my way.
Slowly, by the time I got into my 30’s, I started to realize that the road I was on was filled with major mountains, valley’s, and potholes (sounds like some of the roads I drove on…lol).
I’ll be totally transparent here, on my 30th birthday, I remember I was in Dallas, TX and the air conditioner was broke in my truck. It was 108 degrees that day in August. I was waiting to get a load so I could get back and fix my truck. I got a motel on the east side of town. I don’t know how and I wasn’t really looking, but somehow I had managed to find a prostitute.
After everything was said and done, I just sat there and a feeling came over me and I told myself then that I was never going to do that again. I felt worthless, ashamed, and disheartened. It was on that hot August day in 2000 that I was going to start paving another road.
That’s what I set out to do, and it’s been bumpy, rocky, and hilly to say the least. I have learned so much of what not to do that my only option was to start doing what I was supposed to do. I was still new to the internet so I didn’t know then what I know now.
But as the weeks and months rolled by, I began to read my bible, and I listened to people that acted like I wanted to be. I had begun the long transformation from who I was to who I wanted to be.
I wanted to help as many people as I could. Slowly over time my eyes were opened and I was seeing the way I used to be. Wow, is all I can say, I just couldn’t believe that is who I was. I kept striving to learn as much as I could to be a better person.
But, while I was learning that, not only had I been driving a truck, I had been a bartender, DJ, Karaoke DJ, a manager and DJ of a Gentlemen’s club, and a carpenter to just name a few.
I had lived Colorado, Nebraska, Missouri, Kansas, South Korea, and in my truck. I thought I had life by the tail. Oh I did alright, but that tail was flipping all around. This is a life that I don’t wish on anyone.
While I did have fun, there were a lot of times that I didn’t have fun and I slowly came to realize that I needed to change. The big change again (which has spurred me here) was back in 2007 when my second wife asked me to leave.
I had talked about that in my 2nd episode and that really hurt me. Since that time I woke up and really started to learn about how to be a better person. I didn’t like the road I was walking on, so I started to pave another one. Now, just to be clear, the quote for this show I had never heard before until today.
But, as I read this it made me go back and think about what I had to do to get here to write this blog and do this podcast. I kept having this feeling inside of me that I needed to do everything I could to change (I will say it was God convicting me). Because, I knew if I didn’t heed this feeling, my life was fixing to spiral out of control.
Have you ever felt this way? Has something in your life made you stop and think that you needed to go a different way or you wasn’t going to make it? That was where I was at, and really at the time I didn’t have too many people I could count on. I had burned a lot of bridges.
So, how do you rebound from something like that? Well, the only thing I knew to do was start to build new relationships, and try and rekindle old relationships. It has been hard to say the least, I am achieving it slowly, but it is a struggle at times.
Now for about the last 6 years or so I have had this idea that I wanted to start a podcast, where I might have a chance to help someone to maybe achieve the level of happiness that I am at or even go beyond to a greater level of happiness. My problems with that were, I was scared thinking that I would ridiculed, laughed at, put down in some way, and I didn’t think anybody wanted to hear what I had to say.
Raise your hand if you have thought this way, or still thinking this way. Since I have taken that immortal first step and started this, I have found a renewed confidence in myself. I know now that I CAN achieve anything I want. I just have to take that first step, or if you prefer, I have sail my own ship.
No one is going to do it for you, everyone is out for themselves. You have to decide how much and how bad do you want this. If you really want to change your life and don’t know where to start, send me an email Richard@mypromisinglife.com I am not certified in anything but I can provide an ear to listen and I might offer up some advice that might or might not help. That would be for you to decide.
Until then, I want to wish you the best in whatever you decide to do with the new road you plan to pave. I would love to hear about it.
I want to thank you for listening this week, and I pray that you got some value out of it. Until then stand tall, smile, and know that at least one person in this world loves you. Have a great week.