When Do You Plan To Start?

You know how everyone on Social Media talks about and having resolutions/goals to help you make it in the New Year. Why is that a big thing? Why can’t you start your new year today!

“Tomorrow is the first blank page of a 365 page book. Write a good one.” -Brad Paisley (country singer)

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I, like so many of you fell into the trap of making resolutions/goals every year and I planned on starting it on January 1st. Usually, by the second or third week of the month I gave up and went back to the same thing I did before. That is what many of us still do today.

I still see many of you getting on the bandwagon and have the best of intentions, then life gets in the way and we revert back to our old comfortable ways. The only way to grow is to get out of our comfort zone and push through the negative thoughts in our head.

We have trained our brains to what we think is comfortable and we enjoy it. The only way to grow in life is to break those chains and do things we have never done before. Or to do something we are terrified to do. That is the only way we are going to grow.

I have friends/family (and I am guilty of this myself) that stay in the same old rut and let everything and everyone get us down. All that is doing, is keeping us where we always have been.

If you truly want something different in life, then you have to get out of your head and take that first step. In this area I am no different than you, except that I am now doing this podcast. I have been preparing this for 4 years now. I have content coming out of my ears and getting more and more everyday.

Why, haven’t I started until now you ask? I’ll be honest with you… I was scared to get out of my comfort zone. I have done many other things in my life that weren’t in my comfort zone and it was amazing. I have been on an Internet radio show, I have been on a TV morning show, and a few other things that escape me at the moment.

So you might wonder why I am scared to do this? That is a great question. Maybe, it’s because I think people will laugh at me. Is one thing that comes to mind. Maybe, it’s partly the fear of failure. The reason I say that is because I have tried to start a couple of businesses in the past and have failed miserably.

I have tried network marketing and haven’t had much luck there either. I have tried selling things and have failed at that. I have been divorced twice…see why I am a little hesitant?

Have I stopped trying? No. I haven’t, I have just taken a long pause to try and figure out what would work for me. During this time I have come to realize that even though I might get laughed at, slammed, or put down (for whatever reason). I am going to keep going. Because this is what I like to do. Help people become a better version of themselves than they were the day before.

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I have learned how to be happy in the face of getting yelled at for whatever the reason. I have had things thrown at me and instead of flipping out and acting like a crazy man. I sit down, and instead of dwelling on the problem, I look for a solution. When I find a path that will work, I also have a plan B. I don’t dwell on what people say that I HAVE to do. I dwell on what I AM going to do and put my plan into motion.

Something else I have come to realize is that people/businesses will try to say anything to get you to do what they want. That is where I figure what they can and can’t do at that particular time and fashion my plans around that. I want to get whatever it is and get the problem took care of, but sometimes, what they want won’t work for me.

Instead of fighting with them, I will present my plan and be flexible (to a point). I do this with everything that gets thrown at me and have come to the realization that a lot of the time. We can come to an amicable agreement.

In doing this I have more and better peace than I have ever dreamed of. I am not scared and worried what people will think of me, I live life on my terms. I am still working in this area, and that is my past. I have put a lot of it behind me because it wasn’t that great and I don’t let it define who I am.

I have taken what I have needed from that era. Figured out where I went wrong, and have adjusted me so I can be a better person. I still have people (in my life) who live in the past and won’t see 6 inches past their nose to see what I have become. I am fine with that, because there ship still hasn’t sailed and it probably never will.

What I am saying here is if you have people in your life holding you back, for whatever reason learn to move on and be the person that you want to see. If you don’t know who that person is, take some time and figure it out. You will be a lot happier for it.

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So, as this is a new year, try to break out of your comfort zone and do something that you have never done before or something that you’ve always wanted to do. You haven’t missed the boat, because you haven’t sailed it yet, it’s still in the dock. Shove off and set your sail for something that you have always wanted to do.

As you begin on this journey, take notes, write down what you are experiencing. Then each day, week, or month go back and review what has worked and what hasn’t, and adjust from there. You will be surprised how far you have traveled in such a short time. Once you realize that your out to sea, then there’s no sense in turning back and losing all of the progress you have made. Sail on, keep going, your in control of what you want to accomplish. The world is what you want it to be. Not what someone tells you it has to be.

I truly want to see everyone, make something of themselves, be happy with themselves, and DO NOT apologize for what you want to do. Have fun, be kind, and smile, life will definitely smile back.

A Dead Battery Can’t Jump a Dead Battery

I would like to welcome you to this episode of My Promising Life. A show dedicated to helping you grow better, one day at a time.

My name is Richard and I will be your host as we take our everyday fears, anxieties, and problems and learn how to get rid of them.

In today’s show we will talk about how a dead battery cannot jump a dead battery. Any links to any products will be put in the show notes, which you can find at mypromisinglife.com these links that I provide, may earn me a small referral fee.

Did you know:

laughing lowers levels of stress and strengthens your immune system

I don’t know about you, I would rather laugh and smile, than frown and be down all day. So why do we let the little stuff (and it’s all small stuff) get us down.

When we are feeling bad, i.e. upset, angry, frustrated, flustered…you get the picture. Our (at least mine) blood pressure goes up and we start to feel bad. We have no energy, we stop caring about what is going on because we are only worried about what is happening in our life.

If you listed to my first episode, where I talked about living instead of worrying. I said basically, worrying get’s you no where. The only thing you get from worrying is a headache, heartache, and rundown. So a simpler way of putting it is we are like a dead battery. Now if we are being a dead battery but yet we are trying to help other people that are essentially dead batteries, how is that going to work out?

We can’t be so run down with our problems, because we can’t help other people with their problems. I’m not saying that we need to be happy all of the time because, as we all know that is almost impossible. But, worrying over something that has already happened is useless.

It is useless for the fact that what is done is done. We need to move on from that and work to find a solution.

Now, I’m not saying that it’s going to happen overnight. Not by any stretch of the imagination.

The reason I say this, is that it took me 3 years to get over my second wife. When I was married I was so in love with this girl and I thought I had life by the tail. I was driving truck and gone a month at a time.

I would sometimes get home during the month for a night here and there. But I always took 4 days off in a row, every month. We had been together for about 4 years and I came home and was enjoying it, but about the second night, my wife didn’t quite seem herself. I asked her what was wrong and all she said to me was that she thought we should spend some more time apart. WHAT?!!!!

I was flabbergasted, I asked her “why” and she never really answered me. So, instead of fighting with her, I said ok, if that is what you want. I got up the next day, packed my truck and went back to work. I didn’t go home anymore, I just drove.

Well, we finally got divorced (there was no fight about it) so in January of 2008, I found myself single again. Wow, what a blow to my ego, I cried, was upset, angry, and a host of other emotions. I tried to analyze every thing I could think of to figure this out. Well during that time, I started to look 20 years older, didn’t feel like doing anything (except working), and basically I was just existing.

So after all that time I had to get out of “my funk” so to speak and start to find me again. I used to be fun, laugh, and just enjoy life. I forced myself to start reading my bible, praying, and finding other’s like me. So, I found Zig Ziglar (a famous motivational speaker), Tony Robbins, Jim Rohn, John C Maxwell…and other’s.

Eventually over time, I began to realize that there was nothing I could do except to move on and make me happy. I also realized that I had relied on someone else to make me happy. If I was to be happy, I needed to step up and do that. At the time I didn’t know how. With listening to these speaker’s and reading books I started to learn how to be happy with myself and to start loving myself.

Too many times we let other people determine our happiness. That is only a short term (very short) gain. If we truly want to be happy, we need to make that happen. I read a great book, How to stop worrying and start living by Dale Carnegie https://amzn.to/363pUZG that book taught me a lot and before I realized it, I was becoming a lot happier person.

Now I’m not saying that everyone will experience this, I hope that you do. But I ask that you at the very least, give it a chance. It could change your whole outlook. When we are having a bad day, year, or whatever, after a while if we are not careful we actually start to enjoy it. It becomes routine. As soon as you realize it, you need to force yourself to look at things differently. Everyone is beautiful in there own way. Don’t let anyone tell you any different.

I get very upset when people shame other people for whatever. I try to lift everyone up the best that I can. People will do and be the way they want, that is not for me to judge. I just try to give everyone the same tools and wisdom that has been shown to me. What you do with this information is your responsibility.

If you found this podcast helpful in anyway, please feel free to share this and if you would please go to iTunes and leave a review. It would help me to get this out to many more of you. If you have any questions or feedback, please leave a comment or email me at Richard@mypromisinglife.com

Zig Ziglar once said, “Your input determines your outlook. Your outlook determines your output, and your output determines your future.” If you stop to think about this statement, it will amaze you how a very simple man, figured out, just how to be happy.

Thank you for listening and I pray you find happiness in whatever it is you are looking for. You will want to tune in for next weeks episode, Set a goal and get out of your comfort zone. Where we talk about achieving what you set your mind too.

Until then, smile because you are beautiful, and there is only one of you. Have a great week.