Are you on the right road?

“Life is an echo. What you send out – comes back. What you sow – you reap. What you give – you get. What you see in others – exists in you. So stay nice even when others are NOT.” – Unknown

You know we, throughout our lives we have been expected to achieve perfection. Nothing but perfection will ever do. Even to the point of not being able to sleep because of it. Perfection is only achievable by God. We can’t ever hope to achieve it. It’s okay to strive for it, but it is equally okay not to achieve it.

For most of us, our upbringing is what has us in the position we are in today. We like to blame our past and other’s for the way we are today. The position we are in today, is the result of the choices we have made from the day we learned right from wrong. I’m not saying the choices are right or wrong, (many of us think what we have done is wrong). The choices are just that, choices.

Whether it’s a right (or wrong) choice is the path that you want to take. But you might say I don’t know which path I want to take. That is fine to a point, but today some people are going so far as to wait for years before they ever make a decision on their own. Most of their decision’s are based on what other people think (because their afraid of being laughed at), what society thinks (because they are scared for being chastised for not following the crowd), or what their family/friends think (because that’s not how I was raised).

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I have experienced everyone of these at one point in my life or the other. Each time I would go through something like this (and realize this isn’t who I am), I would move on to the next one. Until I finally came to the point that I just had to be me and I wasn’t perfect. It was too much work trying to put on a facade and be like everyone else.

Now I pray that this isn’t you, but I have not only gone through this once…but more than once. Because I thought I didn’t like my life, or I knew the grass was greener somewhere else. What I finally learned is,

“The grass is greener where you water it.” – Neil Barringham

So, if your life isn’t conducive to simple plain living then it might be time for a change. If so, then change. Wherever you end up, water that grass and make it the greenest you can. If you don’t like where you are at today, at this moment in time then, make a different choice. If you don’t know which one to make, find someone or a situation you admire and figure out what had to happen to achieve that.

“No matter how far you’ve gone down the wrong road, you can always turn around.” – Unknown

Have you figured out that the road you were on wasn’t the right road? Did you change course, or stayed the path? Why?

These are some of the questions that I have asked of myself. I would weigh the pros and the cons and then think about it some more. Sometimes it has been a fight between me, myself, and I. I never really know who’s going to win.

One thing I also do, (not in all situations (but I should have)) is to ask God what he wants me to do. Sometimes the writing was on the wall in big bold letters, or it was in the fine print. If it was big and bold, I would listen and take that step; but if it was in the fine print, I would miss it every time. But what is good about God, He is patient and will allow me to realize what I was doing was wrong, and turn around to go down the right road.

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You know a lot of people say they have a problem with God, religion, church…etc. In all of my years I have realized, God does not force us to do anything. God doesn’t mess with our free will, it is us who mess with our free will and when we get it wrong, instead of blaming ourselves, we blame God (or other’s).

If you don’t believe me, take some time and think back on your life and the choices you have made to get where you are today. Has it always been easy? How many times have you solely relied on yourself? Was it worth it?

The questions in this blog are the same questions I have asked myself more than once. Over the years I have come up with different answers depending on which road I was on. When you get on the road that is good for you, ask the same questions and see which answers you get. When you do this, be brutally honest with yourself. Don’t hate yourself if it’s not the answers you wanted to hear. Make adjustments and water YOUR side of the fence and watch the grass grow.

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If you have any questions, concerns, or feedback you would like to share. Feel free to leave a comment or email me Richard@mypromisinglife.com I will be happy to help you achieve what you want out of life.

Until then, smile, walk with your head high, and always stand for something even if it means standing alone.

Living instead of Worrying

Worrying is like paying a debt you don’t owe” – Mark Twain

Hello, my name is Rich and I want to introduce a new show called My Promising Life. I don’t have all of the answers. I am still searching just like you are. I have found a lot of help from many different places and I will bring them to you, so that if you don’t have the life that you want right now, hopefully I can help you achieve the life that you desire.

I have tried to take over and do things my way in life, and I have found out over and over that I fail just about every time. Just to give you an example I have a left a couple of different jobs with a grand idea that life was better somewhere else. What happened? I was struggling at first, then I found my feet and took off. Things would be going good then life crept back in and guess what…I did it again.

I don’t recommend this lifestyle as it is hard, very hard. One day, everything will find you and you will have to ask yourself am I going to Forget Everything And Run, or am I going to Face Everything And Rise!

One thing that I used to deal with that really caused me a lot of grief, was worry. I used to worry about everything happening in my life, other peoples lives, the state of the country, and just worry all together about anything I could.

It finally took me, stopping and looking back at my life and what I had gone through, dealt with, and was dealing with at the time. I also looked in the mirror and realized I was looking older than I should. I felt bad, had no energy, basically scared of my own shadow.

I remember when I was driving truck and I really didn’t have anyone to talk to. So, I turned to talk radio and found some solace (so I thought). I started listening to Howard Stern, Rush Limbaugh, Alex Jones…etc. Over time I became paranoid of what everyone was doing, the way everyone was acting, and treating other people.

It was so bad that I had myself convinced that we needed to be prepared (which actually we do need to be prepared for anything). But, I basically was looking around every corner just waiting for something to happen.

Well, finally after I realized where I was going, my thoughts, and just what it was doing to me overall. I stopped listening (which was really hard and took a little bit of time). After about a couple of years, I realized that it didn’t matter what was happening around me. This stuff goes on day to day with or without us participating.

So after I woke up and realized that I was the only one basically killing myself over worry and doubt. None of my friends and family worried about it and I had to force myself to stop. I decided to change the channel so to speak and put different idea’s in my mind.

I turned to listening to Zig Ziglar, Jim Rohn, started reading books by Dale Carnegie. I’ve listened to Tony Robbins, Charles Stanley and many more others.

Zig Ziglar said “Your input determines your output. Your output determines your outlook, and your outlook determines your future.

When I read that and pondered on it, I realized, that if I wanted inner peace and to start being happier with myself then worry and self doubt had to go away.

So, that is what I have been doing for about the last 15 years or so and I can tell you from experience that my life is a whole lot better than what it was. I am happier, healthier, and grateful to be alive. No longer do I wonder how I am going to deal with this person, or that situation or anything like that.

I have started realigning my thoughts to coordinate with the good that I want to see in my life. That is what I want to achieve with this podcast. I want to help you become the best version of yourself.

I am someone who has a microphone, a full time job, and wants to start a conversation with you, to become better today than you were yesterday.

If you have any questions, comments, or ideas you would like to share. Please send an email to Richard@mypromisinglife.com I will respond as quickly as possible.

Thank you for reading and have a blessed day.

Until then, take care and know that “you can have everything in life that you want, if you will just help enough other people get what they want” – Zig Ziglar