Are you on the right road?

“Life is an echo. What you send out – comes back. What you sow – you reap. What you give – you get. What you see in others – exists in you. So stay nice even when others are NOT.” – Unknown

You know we, throughout our lives we have been expected to achieve perfection. Nothing but perfection will ever do. Even to the point of not being able to sleep because of it. Perfection is only achievable by God. We can’t ever hope to achieve it. It’s okay to strive for it, but it is equally okay not to achieve it.

For most of us, our upbringing is what has us in the position we are in today. We like to blame our past and other’s for the way we are today. The position we are in today, is the result of the choices we have made from the day we learned right from wrong. I’m not saying the choices are right or wrong, (many of us think what we have done is wrong). The choices are just that, choices.

Whether it’s a right (or wrong) choice is the path that you want to take. But you might say I don’t know which path I want to take. That is fine to a point, but today some people are going so far as to wait for years before they ever make a decision on their own. Most of their decision’s are based on what other people think (because their afraid of being laughed at), what society thinks (because they are scared for being chastised for not following the crowd), or what their family/friends think (because that’s not how I was raised).

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I have experienced everyone of these at one point in my life or the other. Each time I would go through something like this (and realize this isn’t who I am), I would move on to the next one. Until I finally came to the point that I just had to be me and I wasn’t perfect. It was too much work trying to put on a facade and be like everyone else.

Now I pray that this isn’t you, but I have not only gone through this once…but more than once. Because I thought I didn’t like my life, or I knew the grass was greener somewhere else. What I finally learned is,

“The grass is greener where you water it.” – Neil Barringham

So, if your life isn’t conducive to simple plain living then it might be time for a change. If so, then change. Wherever you end up, water that grass and make it the greenest you can. If you don’t like where you are at today, at this moment in time then, make a different choice. If you don’t know which one to make, find someone or a situation you admire and figure out what had to happen to achieve that.

“No matter how far you’ve gone down the wrong road, you can always turn around.” – Unknown

Have you figured out that the road you were on wasn’t the right road? Did you change course, or stayed the path? Why?

These are some of the questions that I have asked of myself. I would weigh the pros and the cons and then think about it some more. Sometimes it has been a fight between me, myself, and I. I never really know who’s going to win.

One thing I also do, (not in all situations (but I should have)) is to ask God what he wants me to do. Sometimes the writing was on the wall in big bold letters, or it was in the fine print. If it was big and bold, I would listen and take that step; but if it was in the fine print, I would miss it every time. But what is good about God, He is patient and will allow me to realize what I was doing was wrong, and turn around to go down the right road.

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You know a lot of people say they have a problem with God, religion, church…etc. In all of my years I have realized, God does not force us to do anything. God doesn’t mess with our free will, it is us who mess with our free will and when we get it wrong, instead of blaming ourselves, we blame God (or other’s).

If you don’t believe me, take some time and think back on your life and the choices you have made to get where you are today. Has it always been easy? How many times have you solely relied on yourself? Was it worth it?

The questions in this blog are the same questions I have asked myself more than once. Over the years I have come up with different answers depending on which road I was on. When you get on the road that is good for you, ask the same questions and see which answers you get. When you do this, be brutally honest with yourself. Don’t hate yourself if it’s not the answers you wanted to hear. Make adjustments and water YOUR side of the fence and watch the grass grow.

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If you have any questions, concerns, or feedback you would like to share. Feel free to leave a comment or email me I will be happy to help you achieve what you want out of life.

Until then, smile, walk with your head high, and always stand for something even if it means standing alone.

If it’s the wrong path, change it!

“If you don’t like the road you’re walking, start paving another one” – Dolly Parton.

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Welcome back to today’s show, my name is Richard and I am overjoyed you are here. This show is still very young and growing. As you will learn as you go on this journey with me, I march to the beat of my own drum.

Many podcaster’s take their first episode and explain who “they” are; Where they came from and how they got to this point and why they are starting this show. Myself, I have given a little bit of why I have started podcasting, but no one really knows anything about “me”.

I was born in Kansas City, Mo. We moved around most of my life. My father was in the Navy so we never stayed anywhere too long. We had a good life so to speak, we always had food on the table and a roof over our heads.

Now growing up we were not the popular ones and we did have friends but nothing steady. I went into the military right out of high school. After the Army, I got into truck driving and just loved it. I had the freedom to basically do anything I wanted.

This is where I started to run into problems in my life. I changed jobs a lot, I would fight at the drop of a hat, and I would degrade people that didn’t see things my way.

Slowly, by the time I got into my 30’s, I started to realize that the road I was on was filled with major mountains, valley’s, and potholes (sounds like some of the roads I drove on…lol).

I’ll be totally transparent here, on my 30th birthday, I remember I was in Dallas, TX and the air conditioner was broke in my truck. It was 108 degrees that day in August. I was waiting to get a load so I could get back and fix my truck. I got a motel on the east side of town. I don’t know how and I wasn’t really looking, but somehow I had managed to find a prostitute.

After everything was said and done, I just sat there and a feeling came over me and I told myself then that I was never going to do that again. I felt worthless, ashamed, and disheartened. It was on that hot August day in 2000 that I was going to start paving another road.

That’s what I set out to do, and it’s been bumpy, rocky, and hilly to say the least. I have learned so much of what not to do that my only option was to start doing what I was supposed to do. I was still new to the internet so I didn’t know then what I know now.

But as the weeks and months rolled by, I began to read my bible, and I listened to people that acted like I wanted to be. I had begun the long transformation from who I was to who I wanted to be.

I wanted to help as many people as I could. Slowly over time my eyes were opened and I was seeing the way I used to be. Wow, is all I can say, I just couldn’t believe that is who I was. I kept striving to learn as much as I could to be a better person.

But, while I was learning that, not only had I been driving a truck, I had been a bartender, DJ, Karaoke DJ, a manager and DJ of a Gentlemen’s club, and a carpenter to just name a few.

I had lived Colorado, Nebraska, Missouri, Kansas, South Korea, and in my truck. I thought I had life by the tail. Oh I did alright, but that tail was flipping all around. This is a life that I don’t wish on anyone.

While I did have fun, there were a lot of times that I didn’t have fun and I slowly came to realize that I needed to change. The big change again (which has spurred me here) was back in 2007 when my second wife asked me to leave.

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I had talked about that in my 2nd episode and that really hurt me. Since that time I woke up and really started to learn about how to be a better person. I didn’t like the road I was walking on, so I started to pave another one. Now, just to be clear, the quote for this show I had never heard before until today.

But, as I read this it made me go back and think about what I had to do to get here to write this blog and do this podcast. I kept having this feeling inside of me that I needed to do everything I could to change (I will say it was God convicting me). Because, I knew if I didn’t heed this feeling, my life was fixing to spiral out of control.

Have you ever felt this way? Has something in your life made you stop and think that you needed to go a different way or you wasn’t going to make it? That was where I was at, and really at the time I didn’t have too many people I could count on. I had burned a lot of bridges.

So, how do you rebound from something like that? Well, the only thing I knew to do was start to build new relationships, and try and rekindle old relationships. It has been hard to say the least, I am achieving it slowly, but it is a struggle at times.

Now for about the last 6 years or so I have had this idea that I wanted to start a podcast, where I might have a chance to help someone to maybe achieve the level of happiness that I am at or even go beyond to a greater level of happiness. My problems with that were, I was scared thinking that I would ridiculed, laughed at, put down in some way, and I didn’t think anybody wanted to hear what I had to say.

Raise your hand if you have thought this way, or still thinking this way. Since I have taken that immortal first step and started this, I have found a renewed confidence in myself. I know now that I CAN achieve anything I want. I just have to take that first step, or if you prefer, I have sail my own ship.

No one is going to do it for you, everyone is out for themselves. You have to decide how much and how bad do you want this. If you really want to change your life and don’t know where to start, send me an email I am not certified in anything but I can provide an ear to listen and I might offer up some advice that might or might not help. That would be for you to decide.

Until then, I want to wish you the best in whatever you decide to do with the new road you plan to pave. I would love to hear about it.

I want to thank you for listening this week, and I pray that you got some value out of it. Until then stand tall, smile, and know that at least one person in this world loves you. Have a great week.

Which is better? Future or Past?

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I like the dreams of the future better than the history of the past. – Thomas Jefferson (April 13, 1743 – July 4, 1826, 3rd US President)

We all have a past, some of it is good and some of it is bad. Some of us can’t get past the bad to remember the good. That has so many people stuck in the same rut as they’ve always been in. These people want to be better, do better, and have more but they just keep on doing what they’ve always done. Because that is what they are comfortable with.

In episode 3 I talked about getting out of your comfort zone to grow and experience new things. We all have dreams of a better future, but some of us don’t know how to get over the past. There is still hope, if you want it.

I don’t know about you, but I have always been a dreamer. I have come up with some great ideas, I’ve even tried a few. But, it seems like I am always right there but have never been able to crossover and “make it”. I don’t know if it’s something from my past that I haven’t dealt with, or exactly what it is.

I’ve started many things and either I will get sidetracked by something else or I’ll get cold feet and tell myself that no one will want what I have to offer. I would like you to try something, it might be hard but in order to move forward we have to go backward for a minute.

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Whenever you can find a quiet minute, sit back and think, what is holding you back from achieving what you desire? For some it’s easy to figure out… other’s it’s harder. I’m in the other group, somethings are hard for me to figure out.

I was spending some time with my buddy John and we were talking and he’s like me. We are great listeners and can help someone else with what they are going through, but to do it ourselves it’s a little harder. I am starting to overcome it and apply what I tell others to my life and things are going better.

Since I have been doing this, I’ve noticed that I’m a lot calmer and welcome the chance to talk and meet with people. Just today I was talking to some one who came into the shop to buy tires and I had the courage to tell him that I was making this podcast.

Now I don’t think he knew what a podcast was, but that’s not the point. Before, I would have been scared to say anything for fear that I would be laughed at or ridiculed. You see, it’s the little steps we take to get us farther than we have ever gone before. Whatever you call it, you have to take that first step and then another one, then another one. Before you know it, shoot your half way there.

Some of the time that is where I really get scared, is when I am halfway. I started this business in 2009, selling gelatin air freshener’s that I made at a large flea market. Now this flea market had 12-13,000 people a day come through on the weekend. What was the slap in the face was that I didn’t sell but about 4 air fresheners out of the 2,000 I made. I tried for a solid month. Shoot I even added trinkets, now those sold pretty decently. But it wasn’t enough to make up what I had spent. I desperately wanted to keep going, but I couldn’t justify the ROI. So, I closed up shop and paid back what I borrowed and went back to work. I took a little break from stepping out again.

I went back to a regular job, where I knew it was safe. I was putting myself down because I was back in my comfort zone. Since that time, I’ve dabbled in a couple of other ideas but nothing on the scale that I attempted in 2009. In fact this podcast is the start of one of my dreams for me. My other dream is to become a successful photographer. I still have my job, for now because I still have bills to pay.

I know though, if I keep going I will succeed in my dreams. When I turned 50, I took a couple of days and reflected on the 50 years I have been alive. I realized that just about every dream that I had came true. Talk about a WOW moment, that really set me back in awe that I had actually achieved what I set out to do.

What really got me to wondering though, what was I going to do now? I really didn’t know. Well, I still had this idea to start a podcast, and I did have my photography, but that was it. It was scary for me because I’ve always had multiple dreams.

So, I just kept working and taking life one day at a time. I feel like I have another 50 years ahead of me and I want to make it better than my first 50. So here we are 6 months after my 50th birthday and I am going to start this podcast doing something that I have always wanted to do. Help you become better today than you were yesterday. Just like I am doing with myself.

If you truly want to have a happier life, you need to change. That might mean leaving some friends (family) behind. If the people in your life don’t make you a better person, then you need to find better people. I won’t lie to you, that is going to be hard. It’s hard for me and something I’m still working on myself. So, don’t feel alone in this, you are not alone.

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What I can say is, when you start to find the right people to help you and not hurt you, you will not only be happier, life will start to get easier. It seems I am someone people like to have a laugh at my expense. It starts out fun and games at first, but as time goes on it bothers me. When I was in my 20’s I was just like they were, except meaner about it. I made fun of anyone who didn’t think like I did and at that time I didn’t care what anyone thought. I had a lot of growing up to do.

It took me a while to do it, but now instead of tearing someone down because I don’t believe what they do. I try to understand their way of thinking and see if I can find some common ground. It doesn’t always work, but I don’t shoot them down for it, I try to lift them up. If I’m not able to lift the person up, I pray that the seeds I have planted will one day take root.

I hope you found this helpful in some way or another and if you have then by all means please share this podcast with someone so they can maybe benefit from it. I look forward until the next time, when we can get together and learn something new. Until then, smile and know that you can achieve what you believe. Have a blessed day.

When Do You Plan To Start?

You know how everyone on Social Media talks about and having resolutions/goals to help you make it in the New Year. Why is that a big thing? Why can’t you start your new year today!

“Tomorrow is the first blank page of a 365 page book. Write a good one.” -Brad Paisley (country singer)

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I, like so many of you fell into the trap of making resolutions/goals every year and I planned on starting it on January 1st. Usually, by the second or third week of the month I gave up and went back to the same thing I did before. That is what many of us still do today.

I still see many of you getting on the bandwagon and have the best of intentions, then life gets in the way and we revert back to our old comfortable ways. The only way to grow is to get out of our comfort zone and push through the negative thoughts in our head.

We have trained our brains to what we think is comfortable and we enjoy it. The only way to grow in life is to break those chains and do things we have never done before. Or to do something we are terrified to do. That is the only way we are going to grow.

I have friends/family (and I am guilty of this myself) that stay in the same old rut and let everything and everyone get us down. All that is doing, is keeping us where we always have been.

If you truly want something different in life, then you have to get out of your head and take that first step. In this area I am no different than you, except that I am now doing this podcast. I have been preparing this for 4 years now. I have content coming out of my ears and getting more and more everyday.

Why, haven’t I started until now you ask? I’ll be honest with you… I was scared to get out of my comfort zone. I have done many other things in my life that weren’t in my comfort zone and it was amazing. I have been on an Internet radio show, I have been on a TV morning show, and a few other things that escape me at the moment.

So you might wonder why I am scared to do this? That is a great question. Maybe, it’s because I think people will laugh at me. Is one thing that comes to mind. Maybe, it’s partly the fear of failure. The reason I say that is because I have tried to start a couple of businesses in the past and have failed miserably.

I have tried network marketing and haven’t had much luck there either. I have tried selling things and have failed at that. I have been divorced twice…see why I am a little hesitant?

Have I stopped trying? No. I haven’t, I have just taken a long pause to try and figure out what would work for me. During this time I have come to realize that even though I might get laughed at, slammed, or put down (for whatever reason). I am going to keep going. Because this is what I like to do. Help people become a better version of themselves than they were the day before.

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I have learned how to be happy in the face of getting yelled at for whatever the reason. I have had things thrown at me and instead of flipping out and acting like a crazy man. I sit down, and instead of dwelling on the problem, I look for a solution. When I find a path that will work, I also have a plan B. I don’t dwell on what people say that I HAVE to do. I dwell on what I AM going to do and put my plan into motion.

Something else I have come to realize is that people/businesses will try to say anything to get you to do what they want. That is where I figure what they can and can’t do at that particular time and fashion my plans around that. I want to get whatever it is and get the problem took care of, but sometimes, what they want won’t work for me.

Instead of fighting with them, I will present my plan and be flexible (to a point). I do this with everything that gets thrown at me and have come to the realization that a lot of the time. We can come to an amicable agreement.

In doing this I have more and better peace than I have ever dreamed of. I am not scared and worried what people will think of me, I live life on my terms. I am still working in this area, and that is my past. I have put a lot of it behind me because it wasn’t that great and I don’t let it define who I am.

I have taken what I have needed from that era. Figured out where I went wrong, and have adjusted me so I can be a better person. I still have people (in my life) who live in the past and won’t see 6 inches past their nose to see what I have become. I am fine with that, because there ship still hasn’t sailed and it probably never will.

What I am saying here is if you have people in your life holding you back, for whatever reason learn to move on and be the person that you want to see. If you don’t know who that person is, take some time and figure it out. You will be a lot happier for it.

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So, as this is a new year, try to break out of your comfort zone and do something that you have never done before or something that you’ve always wanted to do. You haven’t missed the boat, because you haven’t sailed it yet, it’s still in the dock. Shove off and set your sail for something that you have always wanted to do.

As you begin on this journey, take notes, write down what you are experiencing. Then each day, week, or month go back and review what has worked and what hasn’t, and adjust from there. You will be surprised how far you have traveled in such a short time. Once you realize that your out to sea, then there’s no sense in turning back and losing all of the progress you have made. Sail on, keep going, your in control of what you want to accomplish. The world is what you want it to be. Not what someone tells you it has to be.

I truly want to see everyone, make something of themselves, be happy with themselves, and DO NOT apologize for what you want to do. Have fun, be kind, and smile, life will definitely smile back.

A Dead Battery Can’t Jump a Dead Battery

I would like to welcome you to this episode of My Promising Life. A show dedicated to helping you grow better, one day at a time.

My name is Richard and I will be your host as we take our everyday fears, anxieties, and problems and learn how to get rid of them.

In today’s show we will talk about how a dead battery cannot jump a dead battery. Any links to any products will be put in the show notes, which you can find at these links that I provide, may earn me a small referral fee.

Did you know:

laughing lowers levels of stress and strengthens your immune system

I don’t know about you, I would rather laugh and smile, than frown and be down all day. So why do we let the little stuff (and it’s all small stuff) get us down.

When we are feeling bad, i.e. upset, angry, frustrated, flustered…you get the picture. Our (at least mine) blood pressure goes up and we start to feel bad. We have no energy, we stop caring about what is going on because we are only worried about what is happening in our life.

If you listed to my first episode, where I talked about living instead of worrying. I said basically, worrying get’s you no where. The only thing you get from worrying is a headache, heartache, and rundown. So a simpler way of putting it is we are like a dead battery. Now if we are being a dead battery but yet we are trying to help other people that are essentially dead batteries, how is that going to work out?

We can’t be so run down with our problems, because we can’t help other people with their problems. I’m not saying that we need to be happy all of the time because, as we all know that is almost impossible. But, worrying over something that has already happened is useless.

It is useless for the fact that what is done is done. We need to move on from that and work to find a solution.

Now, I’m not saying that it’s going to happen overnight. Not by any stretch of the imagination.

The reason I say this, is that it took me 3 years to get over my second wife. When I was married I was so in love with this girl and I thought I had life by the tail. I was driving truck and gone a month at a time.

I would sometimes get home during the month for a night here and there. But I always took 4 days off in a row, every month. We had been together for about 4 years and I came home and was enjoying it, but about the second night, my wife didn’t quite seem herself. I asked her what was wrong and all she said to me was that she thought we should spend some more time apart. WHAT?!!!!

I was flabbergasted, I asked her “why” and she never really answered me. So, instead of fighting with her, I said ok, if that is what you want. I got up the next day, packed my truck and went back to work. I didn’t go home anymore, I just drove.

Well, we finally got divorced (there was no fight about it) so in January of 2008, I found myself single again. Wow, what a blow to my ego, I cried, was upset, angry, and a host of other emotions. I tried to analyze every thing I could think of to figure this out. Well during that time, I started to look 20 years older, didn’t feel like doing anything (except working), and basically I was just existing.

So after all that time I had to get out of “my funk” so to speak and start to find me again. I used to be fun, laugh, and just enjoy life. I forced myself to start reading my bible, praying, and finding other’s like me. So, I found Zig Ziglar (a famous motivational speaker), Tony Robbins, Jim Rohn, John C Maxwell…and other’s.

Eventually over time, I began to realize that there was nothing I could do except to move on and make me happy. I also realized that I had relied on someone else to make me happy. If I was to be happy, I needed to step up and do that. At the time I didn’t know how. With listening to these speaker’s and reading books I started to learn how to be happy with myself and to start loving myself.

Too many times we let other people determine our happiness. That is only a short term (very short) gain. If we truly want to be happy, we need to make that happen. I read a great book, How to stop worrying and start living by Dale Carnegie that book taught me a lot and before I realized it, I was becoming a lot happier person.

Now I’m not saying that everyone will experience this, I hope that you do. But I ask that you at the very least, give it a chance. It could change your whole outlook. When we are having a bad day, year, or whatever, after a while if we are not careful we actually start to enjoy it. It becomes routine. As soon as you realize it, you need to force yourself to look at things differently. Everyone is beautiful in there own way. Don’t let anyone tell you any different.

I get very upset when people shame other people for whatever. I try to lift everyone up the best that I can. People will do and be the way they want, that is not for me to judge. I just try to give everyone the same tools and wisdom that has been shown to me. What you do with this information is your responsibility.

If you found this podcast helpful in anyway, please feel free to share this and if you would please go to iTunes and leave a review. It would help me to get this out to many more of you. If you have any questions or feedback, please leave a comment or email me at

Zig Ziglar once said, “Your input determines your outlook. Your outlook determines your output, and your output determines your future.” If you stop to think about this statement, it will amaze you how a very simple man, figured out, just how to be happy.

Thank you for listening and I pray you find happiness in whatever it is you are looking for. You will want to tune in for next weeks episode, Set a goal and get out of your comfort zone. Where we talk about achieving what you set your mind too.

Until then, smile because you are beautiful, and there is only one of you. Have a great week.

Living instead of Worrying

Worrying is like paying a debt you don’t owe” – Mark Twain

Hello, my name is Rich and I want to introduce a new show called My Promising Life. I don’t have all of the answers. I am still searching just like you are. I have found a lot of help from many different places and I will bring them to you, so that if you don’t have the life that you want right now, hopefully I can help you achieve the life that you desire.

I have tried to take over and do things my way in life, and I have found out over and over that I fail just about every time. Just to give you an example I have a left a couple of different jobs with a grand idea that life was better somewhere else. What happened? I was struggling at first, then I found my feet and took off. Things would be going good then life crept back in and guess what…I did it again.

I don’t recommend this lifestyle as it is hard, very hard. One day, everything will find you and you will have to ask yourself am I going to Forget Everything And Run, or am I going to Face Everything And Rise!

One thing that I used to deal with that really caused me a lot of grief, was worry. I used to worry about everything happening in my life, other peoples lives, the state of the country, and just worry all together about anything I could.

It finally took me, stopping and looking back at my life and what I had gone through, dealt with, and was dealing with at the time. I also looked in the mirror and realized I was looking older than I should. I felt bad, had no energy, basically scared of my own shadow.

I remember when I was driving truck and I really didn’t have anyone to talk to. So, I turned to talk radio and found some solace (so I thought). I started listening to Howard Stern, Rush Limbaugh, Alex Jones…etc. Over time I became paranoid of what everyone was doing, the way everyone was acting, and treating other people.

It was so bad that I had myself convinced that we needed to be prepared (which actually we do need to be prepared for anything). But, I basically was looking around every corner just waiting for something to happen.

Well, finally after I realized where I was going, my thoughts, and just what it was doing to me overall. I stopped listening (which was really hard and took a little bit of time). After about a couple of years, I realized that it didn’t matter what was happening around me. This stuff goes on day to day with or without us participating.

So after I woke up and realized that I was the only one basically killing myself over worry and doubt. None of my friends and family worried about it and I had to force myself to stop. I decided to change the channel so to speak and put different idea’s in my mind.

I turned to listening to Zig Ziglar, Jim Rohn, started reading books by Dale Carnegie. I’ve listened to Tony Robbins, Charles Stanley and many more others.

Zig Ziglar said “Your input determines your output. Your output determines your outlook, and your outlook determines your future.

When I read that and pondered on it, I realized, that if I wanted inner peace and to start being happier with myself then worry and self doubt had to go away.

So, that is what I have been doing for about the last 15 years or so and I can tell you from experience that my life is a whole lot better than what it was. I am happier, healthier, and grateful to be alive. No longer do I wonder how I am going to deal with this person, or that situation or anything like that.

I have started realigning my thoughts to coordinate with the good that I want to see in my life. That is what I want to achieve with this podcast. I want to help you become the best version of yourself.

I am someone who has a microphone, a full time job, and wants to start a conversation with you, to become better today than you were yesterday.

If you have any questions, comments, or ideas you would like to share. Please send an email to I will respond as quickly as possible.

Thank you for reading and have a blessed day.

Until then, take care and know that “you can have everything in life that you want, if you will just help enough other people get what they want” – Zig Ziglar