Which is better? Future or Past?

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I like the dreams of the future better than the history of the past. – Thomas Jefferson (April 13, 1743 – July 4, 1826, 3rd US President)

We all have a past, some of it is good and some of it is bad. Some of us can’t get past the bad to remember the good. That has so many people stuck in the same rut as they’ve always been in. These people want to be better, do better, and have more but they just keep on doing what they’ve always done. Because that is what they are comfortable with.

In episode 3 I talked about getting out of your comfort zone to grow and experience new things. We all have dreams of a better future, but some of us don’t know how to get over the past. There is still hope, if you want it.

I don’t know about you, but I have always been a dreamer. I have come up with some great ideas, I’ve even tried a few. But, it seems like I am always right there but have never been able to crossover and “make it”. I don’t know if it’s something from my past that I haven’t dealt with, or exactly what it is.

I’ve started many things and either I will get sidetracked by something else or I’ll get cold feet and tell myself that no one will want what I have to offer. I would like you to try something, it might be hard but in order to move forward we have to go backward for a minute.

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Whenever you can find a quiet minute, sit back and think, what is holding you back from achieving what you desire? For some it’s easy to figure out… other’s it’s harder. I’m in the other group, somethings are hard for me to figure out.

I was spending some time with my buddy John and we were talking and he’s like me. We are great listeners and can help someone else with what they are going through, but to do it ourselves it’s a little harder. I am starting to overcome it and apply what I tell others to my life and things are going better.

Since I have been doing this, I’ve noticed that I’m a lot calmer and welcome the chance to talk and meet with people. Just today I was talking to some one who came into the shop to buy tires and I had the courage to tell him that I was making this podcast.

Now I don’t think he knew what a podcast was, but that’s not the point. Before, I would have been scared to say anything for fear that I would be laughed at or ridiculed. You see, it’s the little steps we take to get us farther than we have ever gone before. Whatever you call it, you have to take that first step and then another one, then another one. Before you know it, shoot your half way there.

Some of the time that is where I really get scared, is when I am halfway. I started this business in 2009, selling gelatin air freshener’s that I made at a large flea market. Now this flea market had 12-13,000 people a day come through on the weekend. What was the slap in the face was that I didn’t sell but about 4 air fresheners out of the 2,000 I made. I tried for a solid month. Shoot I even added trinkets, now those sold pretty decently. But it wasn’t enough to make up what I had spent. I desperately wanted to keep going, but I couldn’t justify the ROI. So, I closed up shop and paid back what I borrowed and went back to work. I took a little break from stepping out again.

I went back to a regular job, where I knew it was safe. I was putting myself down because I was back in my comfort zone. Since that time, I’ve dabbled in a couple of other ideas but nothing on the scale that I attempted in 2009. In fact this podcast is the start of one of my dreams for me. My other dream is to become a successful photographer. I still have my job, for now because I still have bills to pay.

I know though, if I keep going I will succeed in my dreams. When I turned 50, I took a couple of days and reflected on the 50 years I have been alive. I realized that just about every dream that I had came true. Talk about a WOW moment, that really set me back in awe that I had actually achieved what I set out to do.

What really got me to wondering though, what was I going to do now? I really didn’t know. Well, I still had this idea to start a podcast, and I did have my photography, but that was it. It was scary for me because I’ve always had multiple dreams.

So, I just kept working and taking life one day at a time. I feel like I have another 50 years ahead of me and I want to make it better than my first 50. So here we are 6 months after my 50th birthday and I am going to start this podcast doing something that I have always wanted to do. Help you become better today than you were yesterday. Just like I am doing with myself.

If you truly want to have a happier life, you need to change. That might mean leaving some friends (family) behind. If the people in your life don’t make you a better person, then you need to find better people. I won’t lie to you, that is going to be hard. It’s hard for me and something I’m still working on myself. So, don’t feel alone in this, you are not alone.

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What I can say is, when you start to find the right people to help you and not hurt you, you will not only be happier, life will start to get easier. It seems I am someone people like to have a laugh at my expense. It starts out fun and games at first, but as time goes on it bothers me. When I was in my 20’s I was just like they were, except meaner about it. I made fun of anyone who didn’t think like I did and at that time I didn’t care what anyone thought. I had a lot of growing up to do.

It took me a while to do it, but now instead of tearing someone down because I don’t believe what they do. I try to understand their way of thinking and see if I can find some common ground. It doesn’t always work, but I don’t shoot them down for it, I try to lift them up. If I’m not able to lift the person up, I pray that the seeds I have planted will one day take root.

I hope you found this helpful in some way or another and if you have then by all means please share this podcast with someone so they can maybe benefit from it. I look forward until the next time, when we can get together and learn something new. Until then, smile and know that you can achieve what you believe. Have a blessed day.

Living instead of Worrying

Worrying is like paying a debt you don’t owe” – Mark Twain

Hello, my name is Rich and I want to introduce a new show called My Promising Life. I don’t have all of the answers. I am still searching just like you are. I have found a lot of help from many different places and I will bring them to you, so that if you don’t have the life that you want right now, hopefully I can help you achieve the life that you desire.

I have tried to take over and do things my way in life, and I have found out over and over that I fail just about every time. Just to give you an example I have a left a couple of different jobs with a grand idea that life was better somewhere else. What happened? I was struggling at first, then I found my feet and took off. Things would be going good then life crept back in and guess what…I did it again.

I don’t recommend this lifestyle as it is hard, very hard. One day, everything will find you and you will have to ask yourself am I going to Forget Everything And Run, or am I going to Face Everything And Rise!

One thing that I used to deal with that really caused me a lot of grief, was worry. I used to worry about everything happening in my life, other peoples lives, the state of the country, and just worry all together about anything I could.

It finally took me, stopping and looking back at my life and what I had gone through, dealt with, and was dealing with at the time. I also looked in the mirror and realized I was looking older than I should. I felt bad, had no energy, basically scared of my own shadow.

I remember when I was driving truck and I really didn’t have anyone to talk to. So, I turned to talk radio and found some solace (so I thought). I started listening to Howard Stern, Rush Limbaugh, Alex Jones…etc. Over time I became paranoid of what everyone was doing, the way everyone was acting, and treating other people.

It was so bad that I had myself convinced that we needed to be prepared (which actually we do need to be prepared for anything). But, I basically was looking around every corner just waiting for something to happen.

Well, finally after I realized where I was going, my thoughts, and just what it was doing to me overall. I stopped listening (which was really hard and took a little bit of time). After about a couple of years, I realized that it didn’t matter what was happening around me. This stuff goes on day to day with or without us participating.

So after I woke up and realized that I was the only one basically killing myself over worry and doubt. None of my friends and family worried about it and I had to force myself to stop. I decided to change the channel so to speak and put different idea’s in my mind.

I turned to listening to Zig Ziglar, Jim Rohn, started reading books by Dale Carnegie. I’ve listened to Tony Robbins, Charles Stanley and many more others.

Zig Ziglar said “Your input determines your output. Your output determines your outlook, and your outlook determines your future.

When I read that and pondered on it, I realized, that if I wanted inner peace and to start being happier with myself then worry and self doubt had to go away.

So, that is what I have been doing for about the last 15 years or so and I can tell you from experience that my life is a whole lot better than what it was. I am happier, healthier, and grateful to be alive. No longer do I wonder how I am going to deal with this person, or that situation or anything like that.

I have started realigning my thoughts to coordinate with the good that I want to see in my life. That is what I want to achieve with this podcast. I want to help you become the best version of yourself.

I am someone who has a microphone, a full time job, and wants to start a conversation with you, to become better today than you were yesterday.

If you have any questions, comments, or ideas you would like to share. Please send an email to Richard@mypromisinglife.com I will respond as quickly as possible.

Thank you for reading and have a blessed day.

Until then, take care and know that “you can have everything in life that you want, if you will just help enough other people get what they want” – Zig Ziglar