You know how everyone on Social Media talks about and having resolutions/goals to help you make it in the New Year. Why is that a big thing? Why can’t you start your new year today!
“Tomorrow is the first blank page of a 365 page book. Write a good one.” -Brad Paisley (country singer)
I, like so many of you fell into the trap of making resolutions/goals every year and I planned on starting it on January 1st. Usually, by the second or third week of the month I gave up and went back to the same thing I did before. That is what many of us still do today.
I still see many of you getting on the bandwagon and have the best of intentions, then life gets in the way and we revert back to our old comfortable ways. The only way to grow is to get out of our comfort zone and push through the negative thoughts in our head.
We have trained our brains to what we think is comfortable and we enjoy it. The only way to grow in life is to break those chains and do things we have never done before. Or to do something we are terrified to do. That is the only way we are going to grow.
I have friends/family (and I am guilty of this myself) that stay in the same old rut and let everything and everyone get us down. All that is doing, is keeping us where we always have been.
If you truly want something different in life, then you have to get out of your head and take that first step. In this area I am no different than you, except that I am now doing this podcast. I have been preparing this for 4 years now. I have content coming out of my ears and getting more and more everyday.
Why, haven’t I started until now you ask? I’ll be honest with you… I was scared to get out of my comfort zone. I have done many other things in my life that weren’t in my comfort zone and it was amazing. I have been on an Internet radio show, I have been on a TV morning show, and a few other things that escape me at the moment.
So you might wonder why I am scared to do this? That is a great question. Maybe, it’s because I think people will laugh at me. Is one thing that comes to mind. Maybe, it’s partly the fear of failure. The reason I say that is because I have tried to start a couple of businesses in the past and have failed miserably.
I have tried network marketing and haven’t had much luck there either. I have tried selling things and have failed at that. I have been divorced twice…see why I am a little hesitant?
Have I stopped trying? No. I haven’t, I have just taken a long pause to try and figure out what would work for me. During this time I have come to realize that even though I might get laughed at, slammed, or put down (for whatever reason). I am going to keep going. Because this is what I like to do. Help people become a better version of themselves than they were the day before.
I have learned how to be happy in the face of getting yelled at for whatever the reason. I have had things thrown at me and instead of flipping out and acting like a crazy man. I sit down, and instead of dwelling on the problem, I look for a solution. When I find a path that will work, I also have a plan B. I don’t dwell on what people say that I HAVE to do. I dwell on what I AM going to do and put my plan into motion.
Something else I have come to realize is that people/businesses will try to say anything to get you to do what they want. That is where I figure what they can and can’t do at that particular time and fashion my plans around that. I want to get whatever it is and get the problem took care of, but sometimes, what they want won’t work for me.
Instead of fighting with them, I will present my plan and be flexible (to a point). I do this with everything that gets thrown at me and have come to the realization that a lot of the time. We can come to an amicable agreement.
In doing this I have more and better peace than I have ever dreamed of. I am not scared and worried what people will think of me, I live life on my terms. I am still working in this area, and that is my past. I have put a lot of it behind me because it wasn’t that great and I don’t let it define who I am.
I have taken what I have needed from that era. Figured out where I went wrong, and have adjusted me so I can be a better person. I still have people (in my life) who live in the past and won’t see 6 inches past their nose to see what I have become. I am fine with that, because there ship still hasn’t sailed and it probably never will.
What I am saying here is if you have people in your life holding you back, for whatever reason learn to move on and be the person that you want to see. If you don’t know who that person is, take some time and figure it out. You will be a lot happier for it.
So, as this is a new year, try to break out of your comfort zone and do something that you have never done before or something that you’ve always wanted to do. You haven’t missed the boat, because you haven’t sailed it yet, it’s still in the dock. Shove off and set your sail for something that you have always wanted to do.
As you begin on this journey, take notes, write down what you are experiencing. Then each day, week, or month go back and review what has worked and what hasn’t, and adjust from there. You will be surprised how far you have traveled in such a short time. Once you realize that your out to sea, then there’s no sense in turning back and losing all of the progress you have made. Sail on, keep going, your in control of what you want to accomplish. The world is what you want it to be. Not what someone tells you it has to be.
I truly want to see everyone, make something of themselves, be happy with themselves, and DO NOT apologize for what you want to do. Have fun, be kind, and smile, life will definitely smile back.