I would like to welcome you to this episode of My Promising Life. A show dedicated to helping you grow better, one day at a time.
My name is Richard and I will be your host as we take our everyday fears, anxieties, and problems and learn how to get rid of them.
In today’s show we will talk about how a dead battery cannot jump a dead battery. Any links to any products will be put in the show notes, which you can find at mypromisinglife.com these links that I provide, may earn me a small referral fee.
Did you know:
laughing lowers levels of stress and strengthens your immune system
I don’t know about you, I would rather laugh and smile, than frown and be down all day. So why do we let the little stuff (and it’s all small stuff) get us down.
When we are feeling bad, i.e. upset, angry, frustrated, flustered…you get the picture. Our (at least mine) blood pressure goes up and we start to feel bad. We have no energy, we stop caring about what is going on because we are only worried about what is happening in our life.
If you listed to my first episode, where I talked about living instead of worrying. I said basically, worrying get’s you no where. The only thing you get from worrying is a headache, heartache, and rundown. So a simpler way of putting it is we are like a dead battery. Now if we are being a dead battery but yet we are trying to help other people that are essentially dead batteries, how is that going to work out?
We can’t be so run down with our problems, because we can’t help other people with their problems. I’m not saying that we need to be happy all of the time because, as we all know that is almost impossible. But, worrying over something that has already happened is useless.
It is useless for the fact that what is done is done. We need to move on from that and work to find a solution.
Now, I’m not saying that it’s going to happen overnight. Not by any stretch of the imagination.
The reason I say this, is that it took me 3 years to get over my second wife. When I was married I was so in love with this girl and I thought I had life by the tail. I was driving truck and gone a month at a time.
I would sometimes get home during the month for a night here and there. But I always took 4 days off in a row, every month. We had been together for about 4 years and I came home and was enjoying it, but about the second night, my wife didn’t quite seem herself. I asked her what was wrong and all she said to me was that she thought we should spend some more time apart. WHAT?!!!!
I was flabbergasted, I asked her “why” and she never really answered me. So, instead of fighting with her, I said ok, if that is what you want. I got up the next day, packed my truck and went back to work. I didn’t go home anymore, I just drove.
Well, we finally got divorced (there was no fight about it) so in January of 2008, I found myself single again. Wow, what a blow to my ego, I cried, was upset, angry, and a host of other emotions. I tried to analyze every thing I could think of to figure this out. Well during that time, I started to look 20 years older, didn’t feel like doing anything (except working), and basically I was just existing.
So after all that time I had to get out of “my funk” so to speak and start to find me again. I used to be fun, laugh, and just enjoy life. I forced myself to start reading my bible, praying, and finding other’s like me. So, I found Zig Ziglar (a famous motivational speaker), Tony Robbins, Jim Rohn, John C Maxwell…and other’s.
Eventually over time, I began to realize that there was nothing I could do except to move on and make me happy. I also realized that I had relied on someone else to make me happy. If I was to be happy, I needed to step up and do that. At the time I didn’t know how. With listening to these speaker’s and reading books I started to learn how to be happy with myself and to start loving myself.
Too many times we let other people determine our happiness. That is only a short term (very short) gain. If we truly want to be happy, we need to make that happen. I read a great book, How to stop worrying and start living by Dale Carnegie https://amzn.to/363pUZG that book taught me a lot and before I realized it, I was becoming a lot happier person.
Now I’m not saying that everyone will experience this, I hope that you do. But I ask that you at the very least, give it a chance. It could change your whole outlook. When we are having a bad day, year, or whatever, after a while if we are not careful we actually start to enjoy it. It becomes routine. As soon as you realize it, you need to force yourself to look at things differently. Everyone is beautiful in there own way. Don’t let anyone tell you any different.
I get very upset when people shame other people for whatever. I try to lift everyone up the best that I can. People will do and be the way they want, that is not for me to judge. I just try to give everyone the same tools and wisdom that has been shown to me. What you do with this information is your responsibility.
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Zig Ziglar once said, “Your input determines your outlook. Your outlook determines your output, and your output determines your future.” If you stop to think about this statement, it will amaze you how a very simple man, figured out, just how to be happy.
Thank you for listening and I pray you find happiness in whatever it is you are looking for. You will want to tune in for next weeks episode, Set a goal and get out of your comfort zone. Where we talk about achieving what you set your mind too.
Until then, smile because you are beautiful, and there is only one of you. Have a great week.